HEY U GUYS WANNA KNOW WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE ME/A GIRL & DO THINGS LIKE TAKE PUBLIC TRANSIT??? well watch this and see what happened to me on the bus today (movie thrills await!!)
UghhhhhHHHHHHHhhhhh the worst kind of bus ride
This practically gave me a panic attack just watching. I don’t take transit for this reason, and I still get shit like this just walking down the street. Thank you for recording this. I can’t even move in situations like this.
THIS IS WHY I DON’T RIDE THE BUS ALONE. it’s terrifying to me. i hate talking to strangers it’s so awful. and i feel bad not being able to go anywhere by myself, but i’d rather annoy a couple of my friends than brave this alone.
THIS. fuck it is so goddamn terrifying especially when you’re being outnumbered. sometimes you just have to take transportation alone and when it happens, this is pretty much the gist of it. so don’t EVER tell us we’re overreacting.
I feel sick.
I’m very lucky to have my own car so I don’t have to deal with this normally, but people who ask me why I’m incredibly uncomfortable riding the bus or subway? Here’s why.
This is also why I don’t go anywhere by myself unless I absolutely have to. These days, I just have to go to work and thank god most of my shifts are in the morning or daytime and I park relatively close to the entrance. Nights where I’m closing, I’m sprinting to my car and bashing elevator buttons just so the nighttime construction guys don’t have the chance to approach me, I can’t stand that they all feel the need to stop, turn around and stare at me as I’m trying to leave.
Going to school by myself was a hassle as well as I’d get skeevy guys in the elevator try to talk me up and then I’d have to practically shimmy my ass up a steep hill to get to my car all while worrying about them following me or still trying to talk to me in a lonely parking lot.
It’s terrible when a girl feels unsafe anywhere just trying to do normal things like go to the store. My god, can’t even go to the fucking store without people harassing you or trying to chat you up when you’re just trying to get dinner for your fucking family. I can’t go out for runs or bike rides by myself just to get sun and exercise because there’s a chance I’ll be catcalled and yelled at, or even worse. Thankfully, my job is in a public enough environment where I can easily get help from others, but I still get the occasional creep trying to chat about how beautiful I look that day just because I decided to put on some makeup; I’m trying to do my fucking job of selling soap, don’t talk about my looks.
To anyone who has ever questioned me on my discomfort about doing things by myself, going into a space with too many people, and me bugging them to go with, here is your answer.
This is something that pisses me off to no end. As a transman who just started testosterone I’ve experienced this multiple times. Even these past couple of days while at work and it’s something I see countless times from my male coworkers to my female ones. Even my boss does it. Just yesterday I had a guy ask me when we’re going to go out on a date. The day before I had a creepy old man tell me how he was retired and looking for a wife, and continued on asking me what days I worked.
I shouldn’t have to pray for changes from Hormone Replace Therapy to come faster because of pricks like this… And I’m lucky that in a sense I have a goddamn way out. But the fact that my close friends and girlfriend have to deal with this infuriates me.